Dinner and the Power of Choice

Gourmet is created to appeal to all of our senses. It affects us in many ways.

Right or wrong, it has something to teach us.

We also feel our history, our personal history, often and in many ways.

Growing up had two chapters. The first chapter was abundant. Dad was a successful lawyer in his own practice. We had a five bedroom, three story brick house on two lots in Allen Park, MI. We had everything, very often new clothes, lots of food, dinners out, and many vacations. Year by year, time went on . . . then, life changed.

I was awake at night to hear Dad’s abuse of Mom. His deep booming voice minimizing her natural goddessness. And then a thump and a quiet sobbing. Shocked and deeply sad, I had a decision to make. As a 12yr old child, did I allow this intel to minimize me, after all, this was my mother and father!  Or did I wait, use time to see how it turned out, keeping my thoughts to myself.   I chose the latter, like most 12yr olds in the 1960s.

Mom and Dad were divorced in less than a year. We moved from that house, plenty big for eight, into a house too small for the six of us. Now we had one pair of sneakers, one pair of boots, minimally just what we needed. Consequently we had to keep our clothes clean and ready to wear again, day after day.

The most profound change was with dinner. Pre-divorce we were required to be on-time, face and hands washed and seated at 6pm. We heard a passage from the Bible and learned a new word weekly from the dictionary. Dad would quiz us through the week to correctly pronounce, spell and recite the weekly word. We had to share what happened to us and how we felt about it. And we had to be excused before we left the table.

Post-divorce dinners only happened when someone complained they were starting to get hungry. Hand washing was only when my sister and I thought our younger brothers’ hands were “too gross.” What was served was often over- cooked from a slow-cooker Mom started before she went to work. Or it was something I could devise from little bits of left-overs and flavors hidden deep in the fridge and cupboards. Again, I chose to experience this as early training for my future career as a fine dining chef or as “the gourmet chef” in our big Italian family. What happened that day and our feelings about it were now left unsaid at dinner, to built up stress. Instead, we would talked it out in private one-on-one. Sometimes the tension got very heated, depths-of-our-soul types of emotions.

Pre-divorce and post-divorce both had positive and negative aspects and life lessons. Far beyond simply being fed, communal dinners nourish in a total feeling way. It does this in many forms, often indescribable. As long as people have face-to-face contact, and especially if they’re tightly linked by an emotional bond.

It’s a tradition worthy of preserving, resurrecting, or creating new, now.

Start from where you are.

From my heart, let me express to you how much choice you have every way, everyday. As a kid, and still today, I use my imagination to keep growing, keep flowing along. Very little needs to be ingested, it’s up to you. 

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T i m i n g

Time has a way of marching on and taking tiny bits of us along with it. I say its a tool to be used wisely. Its absolute, like a non-renewable resource, we can’t reclaim any part of the past. At best we have comforting memories or regret backing-up on Time’s energy flow.

And flow it will. We have energy to spend in the course of our day, the minutes and hours of our day(s). So many things we could have done but time got in the way, a lyric that comes to mind.

Time can be construed to move faster than it does by putting too much into the minutes and days. Over-achievers, over-thinkers, over-doers, just about the only thing that can’t be over-done is love.

Love is the one thing that needs space and time to exist. There is nothing automatic, com-mandible or wishful about it. To love is to stay-put and walk through fire to get to that paradise beach walk hand-in-hand. It requires the tool of TIME and that of SPACE, empty space, like a black sheet of paper. You say something, anything to me, then, I don’t speak allowing space for the energy to dissipate and creative thought to be. You can say you’re thinking or have nothing to say right now. Within the empty space you provide is the room for love to do its magic. Being required to answer back so quickly is stressful. SPACE will serve you in so many ways.

Time will let love grow. Your love, the love inside you right now, will let that happen.

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Not To Be Taken Lightly

Being thorough or having follow-thu, is easy, . . . right?

Well, many times it doesn’t happen. There is some kind of disconnect between what we intend to do and what actually happens. This disconnect can disappoint people, shake-up relationships, derail a promotion at work, lose a job, cause a bad review, harm a friendship or cause a love-loss creating heartache.

Its a matter of clarity and will power. Make it easy on yourself and just be clear on what you truly can do yourself, and very mindful of what you promised someone else. When you say, I will ______(do this particular something). JUST DO IT!

Start slow; start with following-through once, then, advance to trying it once-a-day. As time goes on you will develop a habit of following-through with what you said you would do. There are big pay-offs.

You’ll notice people trust you more. That’s a nice thing. Over time the benefits grow, exponentially. People will compliment you, choose to spend time with you, it goes on and on.

Thoroughness, following-through is best when the thing to do is for yourself. I have heard that one should not cross themselves. That is the same as telling yourself you will do something and not doing it, then, pretending it doesn’t matter to you. Believe me, it matters. It wears you down. I’ve been there. I’ve done that.

You are born with an independent free will that has power. Take it out from the place you have had it tucked-away, shake the wrinkles out of it, dust it off. Give this power some fresh-air and sunshine, or a good shot of expresso. Get it in action.

You go . . . avatar.

Wardrobe Tip for Today: When your favorite winter jacket’s zipper insert starts to fray there is a fix. You can sew it so it stays strong and does not get worse, requiring installation of a whole new zipper. That is a huge hassle or a big expense. So check out this series of photos and leave a comment is you have questions.

Frayed end of zipper
Folded-in end of double-folded seam binding matching the color.
Hand-sew it to the partially frayed end before re-assembly. Leave room for it to zip correctly.
Done. Match the tread so it will not matter if its perfect. Use a zipper foot to replace the missing stitches. Stitch slowly and carefully with the different thicknesses.

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Intuition will lead you to your destiny. Your destination in life. It’s a sense of knowing whatever you’re doing is right. Whatever you’re saying is right. Whatever you’re planning is right.

It’s a knowing, . . . an acute sense that has absolutely nothing to do with logic. It defies logic. This is why, despite the evidence you’ve already experienced about your Intuition being true. Despite that you have said to yourself , “ You know my Intuition said that would happen!” Or, “I knew that would happen!” Still, You won’t follow it because you can’t explain to anyone WHY you followed it. You can’t explain to someone else why you took that action so you don’t do it. Later you know, “I should have, . . . ________“ You fill in the blank.

No authority has ever told you how valuable it is. No one said how true it is. In all your years, no one explained how perfect it is for you. How customized, how unique. How right it is!

It’s a sensitive feeling felt with your total body’s senses, along with sight, hearing, touch and taste. And those senses taking you higher . . . prayer, chakras, meridians. Through your sense of it, your intuition tells you that something feels right or it feels wrong. You will have a gut feeling to trust or to reject. 

If you stop to think, you’ve lost it. Think so you stay safe and noble. Leave logic out of it.

To keep aware of your Intuition takes so little effort. It could be said it takes negative effort. It certainly requires your trust. When you are able to tap into your intuition, a feeling of calm confidence begins to grow. And it keeps growing with every move you make in your life. It moves the direction of your own path. The path shown to you by your intuition. It is your guide. 

Here’s your wardrobe tip for today. To maintain the great color of your jeans and corduroy pants try this little step at the washing machine. Turn the pants inside out. zip the zippers closed but DO NOT button or snap the top. They will come out of the wash just as clean but the color will take much, much longer to wear out. All the longer to enjoy that great color.

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Got Bounty?

Over and over again I am amazed by the bounty of this world in our universe.

The increase comes in many forms. The more I keep close to my thoughts, molding and perfecting them into what I truly want in life, the more it increases.

I never know where the increase will show up. For instance, I had written a description for a rather challenging purpose. I thought so and therefore it was challenging to me. Something about the description was not clear. So I acknowledged it needed fixing as if there was a hole needing to be filled. I let go of the challenge and went about my days having gratitude for all I have, and wallah, the words fell into my lap.

In my lap was a pen and paper for note-taking of a Wow moment from a speaker on Audible, books read out-loud. I wrote the note and so it was in my head for the rest of the day. Toward the end of the day, I was again looking at the description needing clarity, the challenging one, when those notes rolled off my fingers onto the screen. The hole was fixed in a rather perfect way. Boy, was I grateful.

There is something out there that feels like a warm blanket. As I go about my purpose it seems to fill-in the holes. This is bountiful. I feel its directly attached to gratitude.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone. Be radiant.

TO INCREASE MY OFFERINGS: I am now going to offer a little bit of wardrobe advice with each blog post.

After a day of wearing your clothes, it is a good idea to hang them out in your room to air-out before putting them in the closet. The next morning is better for putting your clothes away.

Here is a link: https://www.gofundme.com/f/feminine-wisdom-for-mankind

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Imagination is the idea, creativity takes the idea and makes it tangible, real in this world.

Dr. Jung created the term, active imagination, as the process of making one’s subjective psyche objective.—that is, making the unconscious tangible in terms of images, voices, and inner experiences—so that it can manifest in ways we can more easily understand.

Manifesting is creating. Pretend you are a magician or an avatar from another planet. Do whatever it takes to realize you are a creative being. If that sounds strange, keep subscribing. I have ways to open your imagination and your ability to create.

How to deal with a problem or situation creatively.

Define the problem by looking at it from the Front, then turn it around and start from an Imagined Solution and work backwards to the beginning where you are right now. Seeing your problem from a different angle, from the sides or upside down means to bring in other elements that may flip it upside down for you. Another element like a spatula (pancake filler) or a carnival ride. Flip it on its head. I say, get a brand new mindset about your problem.

Einstein said “You cant solve a problem with the same mind that created it.”

If you feel put-off or insulted by Mr. Einstein’s statement realize a statement I heard last year. “You can be right or you can grow into more ease and freedom.” author unknown

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“. . . within each of us is the creative ability to tap into that abundance, and to live from a place of fullness.” Martinelli

To live life with an active imagination is fun, relaxing and effective at combating all the stress in your life. However, it requires you to unlearn the ideas blocking your imagination. Are the thoughts stopping you actually serving you? I venture to say, those negative thoughts cause more stress than good.

You can remember imagination. You had it big time, as a child. Before the talking heads said anything at all. Be kind to yourself, let your imagination out of its protective shell into the wide-open air. Let it breathe so it can be your buddy. Take it along everyplace you go.

By entering into dialogue with those images and voices, Dr. Carl Jung found himself actively engaged with “emotional drives and dynamics that would otherwise have overwhelmed him,” Seems to me it led him to some very interesting, healthy places.

Your imagination can transform, convert, translate, disintegrate, dis-assemble and reassemble . . .

The nice thing is that it goes according to your wants and desires.

Nothing else works that way.

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