Sometimes I wonder why I need to be so brave in order to get anywhere in life. I realize everyone has their own personal challenges. But in this case I’d rather not have company for my misery.
I got close to someone once, thinking he may be my end-all life partner. He showed over time that he could not grow out of a need to control every situation to suit his purposes. Compromise is not in this guy’s realm of possibilities much less a way of life for experiencing more love. Still, my strong sense of loyalty and compassion made me stick with him for three years. I learned a lesson. He does not care about my feelings or my wishes. YUK!
Two years later I have developed far beyond the need to learn from this type of character. Around this time, he called to say he was dealing with Cancer. Compassionately, I agreed to text him while he went through treatments across the country in California. Little did I know that during those three months he was introducing my Son to his daughter. When he returned from California he announced that my Son is in love with his daughter, that soon we will be sharing my Son’s three kids as grandparents, and boy, “We have two great kids together!” (My Son and his daughter).
Yuk! Now I need to have the courage to say nothing about his controlling personality even though I have a strong instinct to protect my family. He is sucking in each member of my family with the money he throws around and talks about money like a carrot dangling while he manipulates some more.
Where do I find the strength and courage to deal with this situation?