There was a time in my late 20s when I lived in California, the land of the costly weekend seminars. On any given Friday evening through Sunday afternoon you could choose from a cornucopia of self-help live workshops. When I realized the sales hustle, I vowed to not take any of them, wanting my daily experience to be what it will be. Over six years, from 1980-1986 I signed up for only two seminars; Women, Sex and Power and the other was How To Create Your Own Reality.
By golly, I wanted to be able to create my own reality!
No worries. Mates. I will discuss my experience with Women, Sex and Power soon.
The process for creating your own reality works well, although it requires you to work with time and to be very observant. No problem, right? You’ve got the rest of your life, realistically, that’s a good chunk of time to make your reality into your heart’s desire.
The first step is to hold one important thing in mind as often as possible. It is your dream life. Instead of name-brand things and specific people, dream about living with or perhaps working with the ideal person or thing without a detailed description. Instead focus on how YOU feel with them/it. What kinds of things they do (it does) to change your life. The things they do (it does) to help you.
What does that support feel like? Identify what it feels like to have that support. Or perhaps you want an adventure. If so, feel that wind in your hair or what’s it like to sit at that French cafe, work in that desired environment of have that windfall. Think of all the details of what would be different for you and visualize being there with all the sights and sounds.
As you go about your days, whenever you experience an enviable interaction between people or see a desirable adventure or situation, if you wish, add that memory to your dream. Add and subtract things from your dream until your dream is just perfect. You can write it down if you like. But do not under any circumstances discuss the whole dream with anyone! Seriously, voicing it out-loud will weaken the process. You can keep it totally to yourself.
Good. Be sure to recall your dream 1-10 times a day, no exaggeration. You will enjoy it, guaranteed. Always keep it available in your mind. It’s entertainment. You can call it your ultimate goal, but, be lighthearted and keep it free and dreamy, allowing any combination of elements in reality to come together as you create.
The second step is done at the same time as recalling your dream. It is to observe actual reality as it truly is. No opinions, no judgements. Like taking inventory of what is actually happening. You will begin to see little details that match your dream. When this happens, say Yes to it. Start doing that behavior whatever it is. For instance, if part of your dream is to have more friends and be in good physical shape and a new co-worker needs a tennis partner of a jogging buddy, say yes whether or not you know how to jog or play tennis. You can learn.
In review, we have two concurrent tasks – maintaining and refining your dream and keeping a sharp eye on actual reality. Bit by bit, as you incorporate parts of actual reality that match your dream and start living that way, you will notice a significant amount of pressure building up. This pressure will build up until its very close to being unbearable. It is unavoidable.
Its of utmost importance to NOT GIVE UP! Just keep dreaming your dream while you observe reality and continue to take into your life things that match your dream. The stress is like stretching a rubber band between the pointer fingers of your two hands. if you keep stretching, a lot of tension builds up. Eventually the rubber band will break. When the undefinable pressure inside you breaks you will notice your actual reality is the same as your dream. You’ve done it!
Why doesn’t everyone do this? Because of the pressure. They give up too soon and they lack the focus.
TIP: Let go of anyone specific person or thing being part of your dream. It took me 10 years to find my ideal partner in life. He does everything I imagined in my dream. I kissed many frogs in my past. Living my dream is amazing, thrilling.