You’ve Got A Friend

I’ve got a friend. He told me so in a song. How sweet can it get!  I keep saying you are your own best friend. Help yourself to dream of where ever you go to relax in your mind. James Taylor gave us permission. I’ve edited the lyrics for content.

“In my mind I’m going to Carolina. Can’t you see the sunshine, can’t you just feel the moonshine?
Ain’t it just like a friend of mine to hit me from behind? Yes, I’m going to Carolina in my mind.

See (mine) the silver sun, you best walk your (mine) way and watch it shine,
watch yourself watch (mine) the morning come.”

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“There ain’t no doubt in no ones mind that loves the finest thing around,
whisper something soft and kind.

Now with a holy host of others standing round me, still I’m on the dark side of the moon.
And it seems like it goes on like this forever, you must forgive me
if I’m up and gone to . . .Carolina . . . in my mind.”

In your mind your going to ___________________.

“Can’t you see the sunshine, can’t you just feel the moonshine?”

Your mind’s a powerful thing.
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Wool

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Merinos are actually a type of sheep that live in the rugged highlands of New Zealand.  The fibers of their fleece are thinner and softer, more insulating and more breathable than the wool fibers of other breeds of sheep.  One reason it is softer is because the scales which make up the fiber are smaller helping a garment to be antimicrobial, because bacteria cannot latch on to the rough surface.

There is a place for both synthetic and merino fibers for athletics.  Synthetic materials are made from petrochemicals, or recycled plastic materials. These materials, while wicking moisture, do so through the spaces in between the threads. Wool on the other hand is a natural, sustainable fiber, and not only does it “breathe” through the spaces in between the threads, but through the fiber as well.  For those who prefer the synthetic fibers you may be experiencing a stink after several wearings. A great detergent called “Sportwash” will come to your rescue.

Wool you can be used multiple times without the synthetic stink. Although, most people will experience a wet animal smell after multiple uses without washing. Wool can absorb up to 1/3 its weight in moisture without losing its thermal properties. It regulates heat naturally, since by nature it  regulates an animal’s body heat living in temperatures below freezing in Winter to 80+ in the Summer.

 

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In My Face

Sometimes I wonder why I need to be so brave in order to get anywhere in life. I realize everyone has their own personal challenges. But in this case I’d rather not have company for my misery.

I got close to someone once, thinking he may be my end-all life partner. He showed over time that he could not grow out of a need to control every situation to suit his purposes. Compromise is not in this guy’s realm of possibilities much less a way of life for experiencing more love. Still, my strong sense of loyalty and compassion made me stick with him for three years. I learned a lesson. He does not care about my feelings or my wishes.  YUK!

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Two years later I have developed far beyond the need to learn from this type of character. Around this time, he called to say he was dealing with Cancer.  Compassionately, I agreed to text him while he went through treatments across the country in California. Little did I know that during those three months he was introducing my Son to his daughter. When he returned from California he announced that my Son is in love with his daughter, that soon we will be sharing my Son’s three kids as grandparents, and boy, “We have two great kids together!” (My Son and his daughter).

Yuk! Now I need to have the courage to say nothing about his controlling personality even though I have a strong instinct to protect my family. He is sucking in each member of my family with the money he throws around and talks about money like a carrot dangling while he manipulates some more.

Where do I find the strength and courage to deal with this situation?

 

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Keep Talking

I believe many people feel what love is. We certainly can sense what it is not. We often can remember when it was knocking at our door or there in the room with us.

We can not return to that time. In all honesty, we wouldn’t want to go back in time.

Life has a perpetual forward movement, . . . onward and upward.

Like Spring flowers inching their way through newly warmed soil. Dormant all Winter, now they push toward their Spring blossoms, ever moving toward Summer’s maturity.

This is the same energy that pushes all of us toward our best selves.

Best Self – What is that? Who is that? Inside ME??

Yes it is! And you are itching to get out.

So keep talking . . .

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You’ll discover love within.

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Legends

Most of us want to be a legend in our own time. Seriously, though. Legends are in us. We are amazing as children. At that age, its natural to dream, almost all the time. Love is unconditional because everything is full of wonder, parts of a major puzzle we piece together of this life, everything, literally everything is welcomed as it is for what it is.

We are open hearted and naturally honest. Later in life we learn to be contrary. We learn to protect ourselves and to choose our words, often saying what the other wants to hear. All this is learned.

Here I wish to focus on the highly personal legend we know about our lives as young children.

Look at this little fellow. He knows. He even holds his body and his hands as if he is making a point about what he knows. His face is full of delight.

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No one else knows what you are deep inside. Your legend lays itself out in front of you to be fulfilled, step-by-step.  It is not only there with you, it is constantly presenting itself, over and over again. It urges you to follow, you know its there, you can feel it.

Then the alarm rings or your Mom/Wife says its time to get going with a day your (our) society has pre-scribed. And we go to work to that prescribed place. Its time to find your legend. Or, you know you are along the path of your legend because of the feeling of being in the right place at any particular time. And you have an expanded sense of time.

If you allow it, your path will lay itself out in front of you.

Its so easy, it takes less effort than usual. It takes an open mind.

Once you are on your own personal path you will be fulfilling your legend. Thats when life becomes delightful once again.

 

 

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A Love Affair with Fabric

I’m the one with the head-over-heals love affair with FABRIC. Coco Chanel was the one with her feet firmly planted in STYLE. Over my 38 years of dressmaking I saw people become better, more of their true self, with a custom-made garment of their choice. During wardrobe consultations they saved themselves tons of money zeroing in on their own particular style. Their budget for clothes got smaller while their stature (sense of self) got larger.

For a longer lasting wardrobe and one that is far more comfortable I advocate natural fibers, cotton, wool, silk and linen. With so many facts about each of these four fibers/fabrics. I will devote a blog to each one. First, C O T T O N.

I will report on wool, silk and linen another time, and soon.

COTTON

Cotton goes everywhere –  athletic wear to evening wear.. The fiber is so versatile that it can be woven or knitted into a bunch of different fabrics like corduroy, chambray, lace and velour.

Cotton sheets allow your skin to breathe. Unlike synthetic sheets, it doesn’t trap heat under the covers.

Since cotton is breathable and doesn’t retain odors like oil-based fabrics. You’ll save money, water and energy, and help your clothes last even longer.

Cotton is low maintenance. Easier to wash and care for than other fabrics. Think of the money you’ll save on dry cleaning. A little touch up with an iron is an easy exchange.

You can buy too much stretch. The more spandex you add to a garment, the higher your chances of sagging, bagging and stretching out. Stay at or below 5% spandex for your garment to keep its shape.

Who wants to be sweaty? Cotton breathes better than oil-based synthetic fabrics like polyester, so it’s the perfect for working out. Moisture-wicking cotton is specially designed to keep you drier and cooler during exercise.

Cotten doesn’t stink, cling to your body or pill . . . looking old with little balls on the surface.

The industry is conscious of our future.

Over the last 35 years, the commitment of U.S. cotton producers, researchers, and industry organizations led to dramatic reductions in land use, soil loss, water use, energy use.

Among cotton growers there are several organizations with the common goal of better understanding, and measuring sustainability efforts to help reduce environmental impact.

To stay informed on issues related to cotton they are constantly updating reference materials, videos, animations and fact sheets. Learn more at: https://thefabricofourlives.com/our-programs

The Daily Prompt asked for blogs about Fabric.

 


“We have an intimate relationship with fabric starting minutes after we are born, wrapped in a receiving blanket. From then most of us never appear in public without fabric cut and sewn to enhance our shape and our lives.”

I do wardrobe consulting in person and online and write this blog – pashasalon.blog

via Daily Prompt: Fabric

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Dinner

Do you remember this? You had to come to dinner every night. You had to be on-time. Before you sat down at the table you had to wash your face and hands and brush off your clothes.

Every family member sat down to dinner at the same time every night of the week.

All of the food was on the table. Dishes were passed around with a big spoon for scooping up your portion divided by the number of mouths around the table. When you tried to skip the peas, you got a commanding lecture.

You were asked how your day went and what was bothering you. You could have an excuse not to be there, but it had to be a real good one. The next day at dinner you had to give an accounting of that place, who was there, what you did and how you felt about it.

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You couldn’t talk back or make a smart remark.

You also could not walk away until you were excused.

So what did we get for all the trouble it took to participate in this somewhat repressive ritual?   We learned to have a day that was valuable, reportable to people who day after day showed us how concerned they were about our lives. Relatives who we saw everyday and who cared about us.

We learned to talk to others openly face-to-face about how we feel and get their feed-back, perspective, validation. We learned to mean what we say and say what we mean.

Back then we called it Integrity. Now, they call it “being real.”

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Except for some very fortunate households, on the whole we no longer practice this ritual nor any of the virtues attached to it. Perhaps we need to consciously decide what kind of world we want to have going forward. I want to suggest that we ought to make a conscious decision about how we want to relate to one another.

Those nightly dinners fed more than our bodies.

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