After The Shock

Soon we will adjust to the shock of being sequestered on a grand scale. Notice your nerves start to calm. This is a good time to use your imagination and creativity for peace-of-mind. You do not have to give up! You can make something out of this that will be helpful to you. You can establish a whole new way of relating to one another.

Focus on your relationships, even though the physical element is not allowed. Talk a lot online, by phone and text so when the restrictions are lifted, our sense-of-self and the quality of our relationships have risen to a higher level. Right now, when you can safely meet, do it outdoors and do not touch. Laugh, smile, talk and dance in your home even if you are by yourself. Get yourself out-of-doors and relate to the element that resonates with you. The simple elements are air, wood, water, fire, metal. Breathe deep and fully.

Talk about the coronavirus with friends and family until it’s talked through. Don’t argue with the restrictions, they are designed to reduce the spread of the virus. Use common sense and good hygiene. Be there for one another. In this case it’s most important to honor the other person’s principles and maintain your own principles. In other words, stick to your agency and honor the agency of your family and friends.

In a few months the Coronavirus will be more understandable. Even though it’s a time-laden process, it is temporary in the larger scheme of things. This is unique time, where we need to communicate our desires, wants and needs clearly in everyday moments. Be one of those people who makes such a good impact on people’s lives, they are calmed and centered by you and can barely remember life before this time.

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Yielding the Sword

It cuts right through everything possible. The wide and wonderful field of what has yet to happen just moments ahead, gets stopped in mid-air. It feels like a brick wall. It’s not fair or equitable. it’s the phase, “That will never happen.”

Dearest, let me enlighten this scenario. Nothing is never. Saying that something will never happen is irrelevant. As sure as the grass grows, change is constantly present.

Don’t ask why people say, “It will never happen.” Asking why, messes with your true nature. “It will never happen,” comes from a scarcity mindset . (scar-city).

It is better to ask What? What can you do, what is going on here, what is possible.

Never has a co-conspirator by the name of Always. You may hear, “It’s always that way; or, “They are always going to do that.” Same scenario. Nothing is Always, just as nothing is Never. When you enter the field of possibilities, what is possible is just around the corner. Your idea gains momentum with focus and attention. In other words, when you focus on a thought and pay attention to your surroundings you give your idea momentum (energy and increasing power) to be.

Remember: UCREATEveryday. When you see your idea become reality, see it flashing across your awareness, . . . say yes! Invite it into your life. This is an important step.

After all , when you heard, “That will never happen,” and “They always make it impossible to __________________.” fill-in the blank. You became temporarily hard-of- hearing and went about your everyday creative day.

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Dinner and the Power of Choice

Gourmet is created to appeal to all of our senses. It affects us in many ways.

Right or wrong, it has something to teach us.

We also feel our history, our personal history, often and in many ways.

Growing up had two chapters. The first chapter was abundant. Dad was a successful lawyer in his own practice. We had a five bedroom, three story brick house on two lots in Allen Park, MI. We had everything, very often new clothes, lots of food, dinners out, and many vacations. Year by year, time went on . . . then, life changed.

I was awake at night to hear Dad’s abuse of Mom. His deep booming voice minimizing her natural goddessness. And then a thump and a quiet sobbing. Shocked and deeply sad, I had a decision to make. As a 12yr old child, did I allow this intel to minimize me, after all, this was my mother and father!  Or did I wait, use time to see how it turned out, keeping my thoughts to myself.   I chose the latter, like most 12yr olds in the 1960s.

Mom and Dad were divorced in less than a year. We moved from that house, plenty big for eight, into a house too small for the six of us. Now we had one pair of sneakers, one pair of boots, minimally just what we needed. Consequently we had to keep our clothes clean and ready to wear again, day after day.

The most profound change was with dinner. Pre-divorce we were required to be on-time, face and hands washed and seated at 6pm. We heard a passage from the Bible and learned a new word weekly from the dictionary. Dad would quiz us through the week to correctly pronounce, spell and recite the weekly word. We had to share what happened to us and how we felt about it. And we had to be excused before we left the table.

Post-divorce dinners only happened when someone complained they were starting to get hungry. Hand washing was only when my sister and I thought our younger brothers’ hands were “too gross.” What was served was often over- cooked from a slow-cooker Mom started before she went to work. Or it was something I could devise from little bits of left-overs and flavors hidden deep in the fridge and cupboards. Again, I chose to experience this as early training for my future career as a fine dining chef or as “the gourmet chef” in our big Italian family. What happened that day and our feelings about it were now left unsaid at dinner, to built up stress. Instead, we would talked it out in private one-on-one. Sometimes the tension got very heated, depths-of-our-soul types of emotions.

Pre-divorce and post-divorce both had positive and negative aspects and life lessons. Far beyond simply being fed, communal dinners nourish in a total feeling way. It does this in many forms, often indescribable. As long as people have face-to-face contact, and especially if they’re tightly linked by an emotional bond.

It’s a tradition worthy of preserving, resurrecting, or creating new, now.

Start from where you are.

From my heart, let me express to you how much choice you have every way, everyday. As a kid, and still today, I use my imagination to keep growing, keep flowing along. Very little needs to be ingested, it’s up to you. 

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T i m i n g

Time has a way of marching on and taking tiny bits of us along with it. I say its a tool to be used wisely. Its absolute, like a non-renewable resource, we can’t reclaim any part of the past. At best we have comforting memories or regret backing-up on Time’s energy flow.

And flow it will. We have energy to spend in the course of our day, the minutes and hours of our day(s). So many things we could have done but time got in the way, a lyric that comes to mind.

Time can be construed to move faster than it does by putting too much into the minutes and days. Over-achievers, over-thinkers, over-doers, just about the only thing that can’t be over-done is love.

Love is the one thing that needs space and time to exist. There is nothing automatic, com-mandible or wishful about it. To love is to stay-put and walk through fire to get to that paradise beach walk hand-in-hand. It requires the tool of TIME and that of SPACE, empty space, like a black sheet of paper. You say something, anything to me, then, I don’t speak allowing space for the energy to dissipate and creative thought to be. You can say you’re thinking or have nothing to say right now. Within the empty space you provide is the room for love to do its magic. Being required to answer back so quickly is stressful. SPACE will serve you in so many ways.

Time will let love grow. Your love, the love inside you right now, will let that happen.

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Not To Be Taken Lightly

Being thorough or having follow-thu, is easy, . . . right?

Well, many times it doesn’t happen. There is some kind of disconnect between what we intend to do and what actually happens. This disconnect can disappoint people, shake-up relationships, derail a promotion at work, lose a job, cause a bad review, harm a friendship or cause a love-loss creating heartache.

Its a matter of clarity and will power. Make it easy on yourself and just be clear on what you truly can do yourself, and very mindful of what you promised someone else. When you say, I will ______(do this particular something). JUST DO IT!

Start slow; start with following-through once, then, advance to trying it once-a-day. As time goes on you will develop a habit of following-through with what you said you would do. There are big pay-offs.

You’ll notice people trust you more. That’s a nice thing. Over time the benefits grow, exponentially. People will compliment you, choose to spend time with you, it goes on and on.

Thoroughness, following-through is best when the thing to do is for yourself. I have heard that one should not cross themselves. That is the same as telling yourself you will do something and not doing it, then, pretending it doesn’t matter to you. Believe me, it matters. It wears you down. I’ve been there. I’ve done that.

You are born with an independent free will that has power. Take it out from the place you have had it tucked-away, shake the wrinkles out of it, dust it off. Give this power some fresh-air and sunshine, or a good shot of expresso. Get it in action.

You go . . . avatar.

Wardrobe Tip for Today: When your favorite winter jacket’s zipper insert starts to fray there is a fix. You can sew it so it stays strong and does not get worse, requiring installation of a whole new zipper. That is a huge hassle or a big expense. So check out this series of photos and leave a comment is you have questions.

Frayed end of zipper
Folded-in end of double-folded seam binding matching the color.
Hand-sew it to the partially frayed end before re-assembly. Leave room for it to zip correctly.
Done. Match the tread so it will not matter if its perfect. Use a zipper foot to replace the missing stitches. Stitch slowly and carefully with the different thicknesses.

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Intuition will lead you to your destiny. Your destination in life. It’s a sense of knowing whatever you’re doing is right. Whatever you’re saying is right. Whatever you’re planning is right.

It’s a knowing, . . . an acute sense that has absolutely nothing to do with logic. It defies logic. This is why, despite the evidence you’ve already experienced about your Intuition being true. Despite that you have said to yourself , “ You know my Intuition said that would happen!” Or, “I knew that would happen!” Still, You won’t follow it because you can’t explain to anyone WHY you followed it. You can’t explain to someone else why you took that action so you don’t do it. Later you know, “I should have, . . . ________“ You fill in the blank.

No authority has ever told you how valuable it is. No one said how true it is. In all your years, no one explained how perfect it is for you. How customized, how unique. How right it is!

It’s a sensitive feeling felt with your total body’s senses, along with sight, hearing, touch and taste. And those senses taking you higher . . . prayer, chakras, meridians. Through your sense of it, your intuition tells you that something feels right or it feels wrong. You will have a gut feeling to trust or to reject. 

If you stop to think, you’ve lost it. Think so you stay safe and noble. Leave logic out of it.

To keep aware of your Intuition takes so little effort. It could be said it takes negative effort. It certainly requires your trust. When you are able to tap into your intuition, a feeling of calm confidence begins to grow. And it keeps growing with every move you make in your life. It moves the direction of your own path. The path shown to you by your intuition. It is your guide. 

Here’s your wardrobe tip for today. To maintain the great color of your jeans and corduroy pants try this little step at the washing machine. Turn the pants inside out. zip the zippers closed but DO NOT button or snap the top. They will come out of the wash just as clean but the color will take much, much longer to wear out. All the longer to enjoy that great color.

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Got Bounty?

Over and over again I am amazed by the bounty of this world in our universe.

The increase comes in many forms. The more I keep close to my thoughts, molding and perfecting them into what I truly want in life, the more it increases.

I never know where the increase will show up. For instance, I had written a description for a rather challenging purpose. I thought so and therefore it was challenging to me. Something about the description was not clear. So I acknowledged it needed fixing as if there was a hole needing to be filled. I let go of the challenge and went about my days having gratitude for all I have, and wallah, the words fell into my lap.

In my lap was a pen and paper for note-taking of a Wow moment from a speaker on Audible, books read out-loud. I wrote the note and so it was in my head for the rest of the day. Toward the end of the day, I was again looking at the description needing clarity, the challenging one, when those notes rolled off my fingers onto the screen. The hole was fixed in a rather perfect way. Boy, was I grateful.

There is something out there that feels like a warm blanket. As I go about my purpose it seems to fill-in the holes. This is bountiful. I feel its directly attached to gratitude.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone. Be radiant.

TO INCREASE MY OFFERINGS: I am now going to offer a little bit of wardrobe advice with each blog post.

After a day of wearing your clothes, it is a good idea to hang them out in your room to air-out before putting them in the closet. The next morning is better for putting your clothes away.

Here is a link:

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